http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/ Embracing and Enjoying the Introverted Life Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:13:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-2300 Lee Ann Lambert Thu, 22 Oct 2009 20:42:18 +0000 http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/#comment-2300 Wow! Thanks for this comment! You've expressed what many introverts feel and go through on a regular basis. This is very common for many of us, and I thank you for putting it all into words. You sound like you have a pretty balanced way of living as an introvert in a very extroverted world. Wow! Thanks for this comment! You’ve expressed what many introverts feel and go through on a regular basis. This is very common for many of us, and I thank you for putting it all into words. You sound like you have a pretty balanced way of living as an introvert in a very extroverted world.

]]> http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-2263 me Sun, 18 Oct 2009 01:21:21 +0000 http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/#comment-2263 Hi I just found your website and will bookmark so I can keep reading. I feel like I am also an introvert and misunderstood by myself and sometimes other people because of it. I am not shy at all and actually was one of the most social outgoing popular people at my highschool, although I secretly longed for the days in elementary and middle school when people mostly ignored me because I was considered ugly and being smart was uncool. I find myself "playing the part" of life of the party at family and friend gatherings, but sometimes I just prefer not having to emotionally drain myself by the whole social butterfly thing because most of the time I don't really enjoy it and it becomes like a chore after a while with all the small talk and loudness and goofiness that usually goes along with it. I'm not rude and am actually really nice and caring and loyal and I love volunteering to help others. It's just that I prefer to be quiet and listen and observe the world rather than having to always be speaking to block out any silence. But because I am quiet sometimes, people assume I am stuck-up (once they know me they do they see that I'm not that way and many tell me about what their initial impressions were which is how I know) and that bothers me because I am being judged by people who don't know me yet. And I wish I didn't care at all what people thought about me. I am confident and a leader by nature and I know I am intelligent and considered to be beautiful by most (even though being aware of that might sound stuck-up) but that doesn't mean that I have to really care what these people think about me by expressing my opinions all the time or trying to make myself look perfect for them. When I have something to say I say it and when I want to look nice and happen not to mind the unwanted attention it will bring I'll let down my boring bun and take off my glasses I hide behind and wear something nice. But at my core I am an intellectual and a introvert and an observer of the world and I am tired of people always expecting me to take the leadership position and telling them what to do when I get placed in any group where a leader is needed. I'd like to be cut some slack so I can finally really except who I am instead of struggling between trying to be what people expect and want from me and just wanting to blend in with the wallpaper so I can be left alone just for a few minutes so I can breathe and think. Hi I just found your website and will bookmark so I can keep reading. I feel like I am also an introvert and misunderstood by myself and sometimes other people because of it.
I am not shy at all and actually was one of the most social outgoing popular people at my highschool, although I secretly longed for the days in elementary and middle school when people mostly ignored me because I was considered ugly and being smart was uncool. I find myself “playing the part” of life of the party at family and friend gatherings, but sometimes I just prefer not having to emotionally drain myself by the whole social butterfly thing because most of the time I don’t really enjoy it and it becomes like a chore after a while with all the small talk and loudness and goofiness that usually goes along with it. I’m not rude and am actually really nice and caring and loyal and I love volunteering to help others. It’s just that I prefer to be quiet and listen and observe the world rather than having to always be speaking to block out any silence. But because I am quiet sometimes, people assume I am stuck-up (once they know me they do they see that I’m not that way and many tell me about what their initial impressions were which is how I know) and that bothers me because I am being judged by people who don’t know me yet. And I wish I didn’t care at all what people thought about me.
I am confident and a leader by nature and I know I am intelligent and considered to be beautiful by most (even though being aware of that might sound stuck-up) but that doesn’t mean that I have to really care what these people think about me by expressing my opinions all the time or trying to make myself look perfect for them. When I have something to say I say it and when I want to look nice and happen not to mind the unwanted attention it will bring I’ll let down my boring bun and take off my glasses I hide behind and wear something nice. But at my core I am an intellectual and a introvert and an observer of the world and I am tired of people always expecting me to take the leadership position and telling them what to do when I get placed in any group where a leader is needed. I’d like to be cut some slack so I can finally really except who I am instead of struggling between trying to be what people expect and want from me and just wanting to blend in with the wallpaper so I can be left alone just for a few minutes so I can breathe and think.

]]> http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-1130 Lee Ann Lambert Sat, 06 Jun 2009 14:25:12 +0000 http://livingintroverted.com/blog3/2009/04/30/what-introversion-is-not/#comment-1130 @ Marc - Thanks! I sometimes feel like carrying one of those mugs around, along with wearing a t-shirt that says the same thing. It's too bad that we sometimes feel like we have to defend ourselves in this way, but it happens, doesn't it? Thanks for your comment and for reading! :) @ Marc – Thanks! I sometimes feel like carrying one of those mugs around, along with wearing a t-shirt that says the same thing. It’s too bad that we sometimes feel like we have to defend ourselves in this way, but it happens, doesn’t it? Thanks for your comment and for reading!

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